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Gym Blog #3

Date: March 12, 2007 | Posted By:

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So if you’ve read my Gym blog #1 and Gym blog #2 you can see by now that I’m very serious about eating disorders. I had anorexia nervosa for 10 years and have now been recovered for 10 years. I have never felt stronger. I have been doing public health work in this area for the community for the past 12 years. I also work for Kaiser Permanente as a Regional Health Coordinator, working in areas such as women’s health, perinatal health, domestic violence, and multiculturalism. Right now I am studying to get my Ph.D. in clinical psychology so that I can continue my work in the eating disorders field.

 

This issue was a big one here on our new blog, so I thought I’d give some tips. Here’s how to help a friend or loved one whom you suspect may have an eating disorder:

 

* Learn as much as you can about eating disorders. Read books, articles, and brochures. Gurze Books is a great publisher of books on eating disorders. “Life Without Ed” by Jenni Schaefer is a great book.

* Know the differences between facts and myths about weight, nutrition, and exercise. Knowing the facts will help you reason against any inaccurate ideas that your friend may be using as excuses to maintain her or his disordered eating patterns. The resources below can help you with this.

* Be honest. Talk openly and honestly about your concerns with the person who is struggling with eating or body image problems. Avoiding it or ignoring it won’t help!

* Be caring, but be firm. Caring about your friend does not mean being manipulated by her (or him). Your friend must be responsible for her or his actions and the consequences of those actions.

* Avoid making rules, promises, or expectations that you cannot or will not uphold. For example, “I promise not to tell anyone.” Or, “If you do this one more time, I’ll never talk to you again.”

* Compliment your friend’s wonderful personality, successes, or accomplishments. Remind your friend that “true beauty” is not simply skin deep.

* Be a good role model with regard to sensible eating, exercise, and self-acceptance.

* Tell someone. It may seem difficult to know when, if at all, to tell someone else about your concerns. Addressing body-image or eating problems in their beginning stages offers your friend the best chance for working through these issues and becoming healthy again. Don’t wait until the situation is so severe that your friend’s life is in danger. Your friend needs as much support and understanding as possible.

 

 

 

To learn more about eating disorders, go to http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org and http://www.something-fishy.org. Ask questions. Post a comment below, and if I can help, or know someone who can, I will be sure to respond!

 

– M.R.




What Do You Think?

5 Responses to Gym Blog #3

  1. Melanie on 04-04-2007

    Hey there. I think it's wonderful that you posted a link to SF. They're a wonderful resource and have been a great help to me as I've been working through my own eating problems. Keep up the good work, About-face!
  2. rtone on 06-11-2007

    If you don't mind, I will link to your post at http://rtone.wordpress.com/2004/02/10/twiggy/

    My only one comment as such would be to say that, in my humble opinion, there should always be a "disclaimer" before or after stating "Here's how to..."

    This is because everyone is different, and even though people may have something in common (such as an eating disorder), the hows and the whys can still differ over a wide range -- and so therefore would be the methods of treating or dealing with the problem.

    What I am suggesting here is that what might work for one person, might not be effective for another person.

    There are simply too many variables -- different circumstances, cultures, nationalities, ages, upbringings, family sizes and types etc.

    Please forgive me for holding that opinion, and I stress that I am not attempting to comment on the contents of your post or blog in any way -- rather I am commenting on an omission.

    Acknowledging this might actually be of some help to a visiting reader.

    I enjoyed your blog immensely, keep up the good work!
  3. M.R. on 06-23-2007

    Thank you rtone for your contribution to the gym dilemma blog. Yes, eating disorders are very complex with the causes being complex and different for everybody. So I will remember a disclaimer for future blogs I write.

    I am glad there was a dialogue on this subject as there was no simple solution. My goal was to convey the seriousness of eating disorders with the importance of addressing it as a society. I wished I had more people approach me when I was in the throws of my own anorexia. I may not have responded right away but having more seeds planted in my head would have made a difference. And I do point out that this is my story and this approach would have worked for me. I think the bottom line is that this is a condition that can not be ignored and we live in an appearance focused society that contributes to eating disorders along with its many other causation factors.
  4. agriya on 08-14-2008

    I like to go gym and do exercise but I don't have a time to do that, daily I am doing .30 exercise in my home and taking good healty foods also, I feel this is good for me.
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