Top 10 not-so-subtle ways to show you’re a jerk
Questions to Consider:
- Who is this article written for?
- What messages does it send to women?
- What messages does it send to men?
- How would you feel if your significant other did any of these things to you?
What We Think:
According to AskMen.com, every man knows that there are some things you just can’t come right out and say to your girlfriend, including, “You’ve put on weight, and I find you less attractive.” So the writers at AskMen.com have helpfully compiled a list of the top 10 “subtle” ways to tell her she’s getting fat. First of all, we’d like to point out that these methods are not subtle, but passive-aggressive—hardly a desirable communication style in any healthy relationship. Moreover, AskMen.com sends the message to readers that not only is it inevitable that if your girlfriend puts on weight, you will not longer be attracted to her, but also suggests that you attempt to “shame her into an acknowledgment of her recent weight gain,” rather than addressing the fact that you are, apparently, shallow. There is definitely something shameful going on, but it has nothing to do with her. What’s shameful is to stoop to these levels of immaturity and disrespect to deal with a more serious problem—the fact that you are a jerk.
— Marisa Keller
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