http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/ Wed, 05 Jun 2013 08:05:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-149121 Aimee Mon, 13 May 2013 18:10:16 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-149121 Great project Stacey and well -needed in our society...'slut shaming' has been around since Eve- the original slut. I say take it a step further and strike slut from the lexicon- let it tumble into disfavor along with the other bigot-inspired references. Slut shaming is one of the many ways society tries to 'reign in' women's behavior and power; a promiscuous man is a stud but every woman with the potential for sexual partners is a slut, a sexual suspect. And Beth, seriously- what 6th grade child is capable of 'sexually charging' an atmosphere- unless you're a pedophile? Furthermore, if I were you I would spend my time policing advertising and Hollywood and the way they sexually charge and exploit everything from cars and yogurt to celebrities rather than join in the idea of 'slut shaming' a child by wondering if her actions were inappropriate. There are no morality police in this country- our personal beliefs and morals are our own business, not the state. Great project Stacey and well -needed in our society…’slut shaming’ has been around since Eve- the original slut. I say take it a step further and strike slut from the lexicon- let it tumble into disfavor along with the other bigot-inspired references. Slut shaming is one of the many ways society tries to ‘reign in’ women’s behavior and power; a promiscuous man is a stud but every woman with the potential for sexual partners is a slut, a sexual suspect.
And Beth, seriously- what 6th grade child is capable of ‘sexually charging’ an atmosphere- unless you’re a pedophile? Furthermore, if I were you I would spend my time policing advertising and Hollywood and the way they sexually charge and exploit everything from cars and yogurt to celebrities rather than join in the idea of ‘slut shaming’ a child by wondering if her actions were inappropriate. There are no morality police in this country- our personal beliefs and morals are our own business, not the state.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-148996 Beth Mon, 13 May 2013 15:02:45 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-148996 Sorry you don,t get a free pass to do whatever you want without having someone tell you they don't like it.If your display of your "blossoming sexually" offends me I have the right to tell you I don't like it. Sorry you don,t get a free pass to do whatever you want without having someone tell you they don’t like it.If your display of your “blossoming sexually” offends me I have the right to tell you I don’t like it.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-147190 Vanina Sat, 11 May 2013 20:22:49 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-147190 ^^^^ THIS!!! a thousand times. Thank you, Celine, for articulating the concept so eloquently. Kudos. ^^^^ THIS!!! a thousand times. Thank you, Celine, for articulating the concept so eloquently. Kudos.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-147117 pianosandwich Sat, 11 May 2013 18:52:09 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-147117 It is disgusting how far people will go to justify ruining the lives of women and girls in order to control them and their sexualities. It is disgusting how far people will go to justify ruining the lives of women and girls in order to control them and their sexualities.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-147085 Celine Sat, 11 May 2013 18:10:55 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-147085 No choice women and girls make about their own bodies will ever CAUSE men and boys to behave badly. No choice a woman or girl can make will force men and boys to visit sexual violence upon them. Any line of argument that does not place the blame for sexism, slut shaming, bullying, and sexual violence directly on sexist men and women who police other women is victim blaming bullshit. It is so seductive to blame women who appear to be sexual as being oppressed and exploited, as being tools of the patriarchy. I get that mentality, I understand why women do it. BUT IT'S WRONG. It's wrong like trying to "save" muslim women from their burkas is wrong. It's wrong like telling women they are bad for shaving their legs or for wanting to be housewives is wrong. And as Margaret Atwood in "The Handmaids Tale" says: "the easiest way to control women is to get women to control each other for you." Pre-teen girls exploring their sexuality do not cause pre-teen boys to be violent little shits; pre-teen boys deciding they have that right do. Sexy women don't cause rape, rapists do. Feminism should be about liberating women (we forget that feminism is about 'women's liberation' more than it's about equality---equality to what, the shitty constrained macho lives men suffer?) from a past where they had NO (safe) choices, to a future where they have every conceivable choice. Feminism is about ensuring women can make choices about their bodies, their sexuality, their health, their happiness, without fear of being oppressed. Thinking that women and girls need to be saved from their own slutty choices, or their own prude choices, is the exact opposite of what feminism should be; it's the same condescending, patronizing bullshit women have been living with for millennia. This approach to feminism keeps women perpetually in a state of childhood, and lets the people who perpetuate misogyny off the hook for their behavior. No choice women and girls make about their own bodies will ever CAUSE men and boys to behave badly. No choice a woman or girl can make will force men and boys to visit sexual violence upon them. Any line of argument that does not place the blame for sexism, slut shaming, bullying, and sexual violence directly on sexist men and women who police other women is victim blaming bullshit. It is so seductive to blame women who appear to be sexual as being oppressed and exploited, as being tools of the patriarchy. I get that mentality, I understand why women do it. BUT IT’S WRONG. It’s wrong like trying to “save” muslim women from their burkas is wrong. It’s wrong like telling women they are bad for shaving their legs or for wanting to be housewives is wrong. And as Margaret Atwood in “The Handmaids Tale” says: “the easiest way to control women is to get women to control each other for you.” Pre-teen girls exploring their sexuality do not cause pre-teen boys to be violent little shits; pre-teen boys deciding they have that right do. Sexy women don’t cause rape, rapists do. Feminism should be about liberating women (we forget that feminism is about ‘women’s liberation’ more than it’s about equality—equality to what, the shitty constrained macho lives men suffer?) from a past where they had NO (safe) choices, to a future where they have every conceivable choice. Feminism is about ensuring women can make choices about their bodies, their sexuality, their health, their happiness, without fear of being oppressed. Thinking that women and girls need to be saved from their own slutty choices, or their own prude choices, is the exact opposite of what feminism should be; it’s the same condescending, patronizing bullshit women have been living with for millennia. This approach to feminism keeps women perpetually in a state of childhood, and lets the people who perpetuate misogyny off the hook for their behavior.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-147075 Emma Sat, 11 May 2013 18:00:52 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-147075 Beth, I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but the United States and the society in which we live in is a sexually charged environment. Children, adolescents, and adults are subjected to sex via commercials selling cars, beer, and clothes all the time. Sex is everywhere. Her participation and curiosity about sexual acts should not be punished or shamed when it's always around her, and everyone else. Part of the issue is that kids shame each other for doing sexual acts, that according to our society and the images we promote, are "natural" and "normal." Then once they start doing it, they are judged, shamed, and tormented.The most important thing to do is educate kids in a non-judgmental way and provide them with options, birth control, condoms, so they have sex responsibly and treat each other well. Beth, I’m not sure if you’re aware of this, but the United States and the society in which we live in is a sexually charged environment. Children, adolescents, and adults are subjected to sex via commercials selling cars, beer, and clothes all the time. Sex is everywhere. Her participation and curiosity about sexual acts should not be punished or shamed when it’s always around her, and everyone else. Part of the issue is that kids shame each other for doing sexual acts, that according to our society and the images we promote, are “natural” and “normal.” Then once they start doing it, they are judged, shamed, and tormented.The most important thing to do is educate kids in a non-judgmental way and provide them with options, birth control, condoms, so they have sex responsibly and treat each other well.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-147073 Emma Sat, 11 May 2013 18:00:20 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-147073 Beth, I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but the United States and the society in which we live in is a sexually charged environment. Children, adolescents, and adults are subjected to sex via commercials selling cars, beer, and clothes all the time. Sex is everywhere. Her participation and curiosity about sexual acts should not be punished or shamed when it's always around her, and everyone else. Part of the issue is that kids shame each other for doing sexual acts, that according to our society and the images we promote, are "natural" and "normal." Then once they start doing it, they are judged, shamed, and tormented.The most important thing to do is educate kids in a non-judgmental way and provide them with options, birth control, condoms, so they have sex responsibly and treat each other well. P Beth, I’m not sure if you’re aware of this, but the United States and the society in which we live in is a sexually charged environment. Children, adolescents, and adults are subjected to sex via commercials selling cars, beer, and clothes all the time. Sex is everywhere. Her participation and curiosity about sexual acts should not be punished or shamed when it’s always around her, and everyone else. Part of the issue is that kids shame each other for doing sexual acts, that according to our society and the images we promote, are “natural” and “normal.” Then once they start doing it, they are judged, shamed, and tormented.The most important thing to do is educate kids in a non-judgmental way and provide them with options, birth control, condoms, so they have sex responsibly and treat each other well. P

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-147031 Timberly Sat, 11 May 2013 17:08:21 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-147031 What does that even mean? Bullying aside for one second, how could a girl exploring her OWN sexuality create a "sexually charged environment" that those mysterious other girls would have to deal with?? I don't recall my own private, blossoming sexuality causing the environment around me and my friends to start feeling.... horny. Seriously. What does that even mean? Bullying aside for one second, how could a girl exploring her OWN sexuality create a “sexually charged environment” that those mysterious other girls would have to deal with?? I don’t recall my own private, blossoming sexuality causing the environment around me and my friends to start feeling…. horny. Seriously.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-146198 Beth Fri, 10 May 2013 23:19:31 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-146198 What is concidered bad behavior might vary from person to person but it is the outcome that counts. By her actions she may have caused a sexually charged enviroment that the others girls had to deal with. What is concidered bad behavior might vary from person to person but it is the outcome that counts. By her actions she may have caused a sexually charged enviroment that the others girls had to deal with.

]]> http://www.about-face.org/from-the-diary-of-the-6th-grade-slut-the-unslut-project/#comment-145282 Stacey Fri, 10 May 2013 03:04:45 +0000 http://www.about-face.org/?p=14315#comment-145282 I agree, Doreen. Thanks for your comment. I agree, Doreen. Thanks for your comment.

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